What is that horrible noise? The alarm, argh! It’s Monday morning again, yes again, yes already.
Can you believe it? It’s Monday morning again already. It just seems like 5 minutes ago it was Friday afternoon and you were desperate for a break, for a couple of days off, and now here you go again, ready to start another week, but not really ready, feeling worse than Friday at 5:00pm. How can that be? Now your thumbing through Grays Anatomy (no not the TV series, the real book, the medical reference), desperately trying to find an obscure ailment that no one could challenge –can you call in sick, just one more day’s all you need.
Periodically, I talk about resilience and how important it is. I keep coming back to it because we all need constant reminders to be conscious of how we are maintaining and developing our resilience. After all, it is resilience that underpins our personal and professional growth. If you don’t have resilience, then you might as well put down the mouse, turn off the computer and go and watch another re-run of Greys Anatomy (yes, that’s the TV series, not the book).
What is resilience?
“…the capability of a strained body to recover its size and shape after deformation caused especially by compressive stress.
…an ability to recover from or adjust easily to misfortune or change.” Merriam Webster Dictionary
Back to my usual sporting analogy. Are you fit for the match? Are you able to play a full game – along with all the successes and wins, take all the bumps and hits, come out with all the bumps, bruises and scratches and be ready to play again next week, or in the world of work, maybe just a few hours later. If you’re not, then perhaps you need to work on your resilience.
Here’s 6 simple steps for building resilience
- Make a list of all your significant achievements and add to them as you achieve more. Keep them in a place where you will read them regularly and remind yourself of all you’ve done and can do. When the little speed humps come your way, they quickly smooth out when you review your achievements.
- What are you passionate about and what are you doing about it. What makes you feel really good when you’re involved and what makes you really engaged? Having a sense of purpose in life is important to us all. Hang your hat on something.
- Develop strong social networks. We all need friends and companions. Find out who else is passionate about what you’re passionate about and connect with them. 5 minutes on the internet will open up all sorts of possible networking opportunities. Join a group, or talk about your passion at work. People will come out of the woodwork when you least expect it.
- Set yourself goals to under pin your success. I keep half a dozen simple goals in my journal and I read them at least every few weeks. Many of them are achieved with seemingly little effort by me and then they go straight to my list of successes
- Look after yourself physically and emotionally. Learn to recognise your emotions and what they are attached to – what situations, conversations etc and practice separating your emotions from the actual events. Often when you recognise emotions and name them (out loud- in the car by yourself) they dissipate very quickly. And look after yourself physically of course. Your physical health is critical. You don’t need to run a marathon tomorrow, just choose one action you can take to help, like choosing stairs over escalators, a brisk walk at lunchtime. I bought a Fitbit, 10,000 steps a day, a little obligation around my wrist.
- Embrace change. There is nothing new, no development, no exciting challenges without change. Go out of your way to stretch yourself with a little change. Tell yourself out loud that change is exciting. Deliberately avoid criticising and moaning about change and joining others in the same.
Add a couple of these ideas to your arsenal and I guarantee you will feel more positive and stronger. Even if it’s just a little, every bit helps. I am doing them all, some well and some not, but they are all on my list.
Love to hear any thoughts and ideas you have.
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